Talking to Yourself is OK; Just be Nice
Everyone talks to themselves, whether out-loud, or in their mind. What kind of things are you saying to yourself? Your self talk will influence your self esteem and self confidence. You should be encouraging yourself; there are enough negative people in the world who try to put you down. Your defense is your self-confidence; keep it strong.
Self Talk and your Self Esteem
Thinking negative thoughts makes you unhappy; self-talk leads to your mood. It’s bad enough to listen to others negative attitudes; you don’t need it from your own inner-voice.
Telling yourself “I suck” or “I’m a failure” will lead to low self esteem and no confidence; you may even become depressed and then tell yourself more negative things.
Bill Bartmann suggests telling yourself “I can do this” or “I will succeed,” to improve your chances of being successful and overcoming life’s challenges.
Life Influences our Self-Talk
Your parents were your early influence; you may find that you often tell yourself what you remember hearing from them. Phrases they used often can stick in your mind, like “You talk too much” or “When are you going to learn!” On the other hand, maybe you heard “Have a good day at school; I love you” or “Thank you for doing a great job” or “I’m so proud of you!”
Your own inner-voice is the most critical one you will hear; if you only have negative things to say, you are on the path of destruction – you are destroying your own self-esteem by eroding your self-confidence.
Repetition of the same negative comments, whether from your parents or your own inner-self, will lead to your believing them. If they really are true, work on making adjustments
Self Talk Influences our Ability to Meet Goals
Self talk influences self-esteem, confidence and the ability to cope with the ups and downs in life. Perhaps you are fortunate to get a lot of encouragement from others, but the real personal strength comes from encouraging yourself. Self talk affects your relationships with others, your capability at work, your general happiness and well being and your ability to face challenges and overcome conflict.
Bill Bartmann says that people are always trying to “talk others into something” or “talk their way out of something.” Sometimes it works! Why not talk yourself into success? Learn more about billionaire, Bill Bartmann at http://www.billionaireu.com